Did you know that the physiological reactions for fear and excitement are the same? I believe we humans crave adventure --doing things that scare us-- just as strongly as we desire safety and familiarity. That's why sex draws us so strongly. Sex offers both: adventure and connection through our bodies and hearts.

If you would like to try something new to reignite your own life or your relationship, here are few steps you could take:

1) Review The Map of Human Sexuality and jot down the name of any activity that gives you a tingle or electric jolt of fear, curiosity or excitement. Let the list percolate in the back of your mind for a bit. You may want to write the list in your journal or place in a folder you'll be able to find again.

2) Pull out your list and write each activity or idea on a separate piece of paper or on a separate post-it.

3) Divide the ideas into categories like "Try It," "Research It" and "Pure Fantasy" for the things like alien abduction or being ravished by a giant squid that you are not sure you could create into reality. Even the Pure Fantasy category may include things you could find through a quick Google search on the internet.

4) Then, block out some time to decide how to put your fantasies into action. It might be a small step like going to the library or your local adult store to look for a book or a video on the topic that excites or scares you. You could talk about your fantasy with your partner or a close friend.

Or contact me, Andrea of AskAphrodite.com, to brainstorm ways you could realize your fantasies or for a consultation on how to talk to your partner about trying out new things.

Welcome to the blog for AskAphrodite.com. I'm just playing around with it now but check back soon as I work out the kinks in how to use the software and begin to write in earnest.

Warmly,

Andrea of AskAphrodite.com